THE PATH TO INTEGRATION
I help men rebuild the relationship with themselves so they no longer abandon themselves when tension shows up.
Self-Leadership - Relationship Mastery - Emotional Regulation -
Nice Guy Recovery - Shadow Work
What Does Self-Abandonment Look Like?
You believe that you are not good enough, just as you are?
You feel like your value has to be earned.
You put everyone else’s needs in front of your own?
You put your needs aside to keep everyone else “ok”.
You have a hard time keeping relationships?
Partners get frustrated & bored - It has lost the spark you once had.
You hide your true feelings?
You say you are “fine” when you really aren’t to avoid tension.
You become what you think other people want you to be?
You are different and feel like you can’t be your true self, or don’t know who you really are.
You have trouble expressing your needs, wants, and desires?
You don’t know what you want. You fold if someone asks “what do you want?”
You avoid conflict at all costs?
You hide your opinions and think “it’s not worth it”.
You beat yourself up for things that happened years ago?
Constantly living in regret for not truly showing up in the moment.
You procrastinate and never finish what you start?
You always stop just before you finish, or choose to do things that won’t move you forward.
You choose relationships with people who need to be “fixed”?
You find the perfect person, if only they would do this… Then spend your time and money to make them whole.
You say “yes”, when you really want to say “no”?
Either from fear of missing out, just happy to be included, or you don’t want to rock the boat.
You have a hard time taking criticism, and take everything as a personal attack?
You work harder than anyone you know, put in more effort, and if you have receive any perceived negative feedback - the whole project needs to be redone.
You lack confidence in making decisions?
Stuck trying to please everyone and always seem frustrated.
Most men think their problem is confidence or boundaries.
What I’ve found is that the deeper issue is:
They abandon themselves when emotional tension shows up.
Becoming Integrated
“An integrated man is someone who is fully aware of his needs and desires and is able to express them in a healthy and assertive manner. At the heart of the integrated man is a deep sense of self-leadership and purpose. He knows his values and beliefs and is able to live in alignment with them, creating a fulfilling life that is true to himself.”
